Protecting Yourself from Romance Scams
Romance scams are among the most psychologically manipulative forms of cyber fraud.
According to the Federal Trade Commission (FTC), Americans reported over $1 billion in losses to romance scams in 2023, making it one of the costliest types of consumer fraud. Meanwhile, the Canadian Anti-Fraud Centre (CAFC) recorded more than $50 million in reported losses in Canada during the same period.
Given the right circumstances, any person can fall prey to these scams as they tap into powerful aspects of what it is to be human. Being vigilant to these scams can protect not only your finances from fraud, but, just as importantly, it can avoid traumatic emotional experiences that can have dire repercussions.
What’s critical to remember is that you’re not to blame if you fall victim to fraud. It’s not your fault; and, telling people and getting help as soon as possible is crucial. Report fraud to your local police and to your financial institution as soon as you can.
A particularly insidious variant of fraud is known as romance-baiting, also formerly referred to as the so-called “pig butchering” scam.
Fraudsters invest significant time — sometimes for months — building an online relationship before persuading victims to invest in fake cryptocurrency platforms or shady get-rich-quick schemes. Once the money transfers are complete, the scammer vanishes, leaving victims in both financial and emotional distress.
These scams can start with innocent messages sent via text, social media or e-mail.
From a neuroscientific perspective, romance scams work effectively by exploiting the brain’s reward circuitry. When we experience closeness and affection, our brains release dopamine and oxytocin, hormones that heighten trust and attachment. Coupled with cognitive biases like confirmation bias — where we favor information that aligns with our desires — victims may overlook glaring red flags or brush aside inconsistencies.
Common Romance Scam Tactics:
Rapid Relationship Development AKA Love Bombing– Showering you with affection soon after meeting online.
Shared “Secrets” – Inventing personal stories to build quick intimacy.
Money Requests – Spinning urgent situations or lucrative “opportunities” to solicit funds.
Tips to Stay Safe:
Verify Identities – Use reverse image searches and check for consistent social media histories.
Slow the Pace – Genuine connections develop over time; be wary of someone rushing intimacy.
Never Send Money – Urgent pleas or “secret investment” pitches are almost always red flags.
Stick to Reputable Platforms – Trustworthy dating apps or sites with built-in security features are safer.
Trust Your Instincts – Listen to your gut if stories seem inconsistent or if someone avoids video calls. Even with video, be wary of deep fake AI technology that can allow people to deceive others.
Educate Yourself – Keep up with the latest scam tactics. Follow Beauceron Security and check out our content library in our platform to learn more about cyber scams.
By understanding the psychological underpinnings of romance scams and staying alert for warning signs, you can protect yourself — and those around you — from becoming victims. Real relationships are built on honesty and transparency, not opportunistic transactions.
Stay informed and stay secure!